Do You Have a Power? Use it Wisely.

It was such a great topic to talk about in the Organizational Behavior class. We talked about how does power of the boss might effect on the employees. The power of someone’s important in the workplace could cause some problems to the workers. According to the Fundamental Organizational Behavior book, it says” power refers to the capacity that A has to influence the behavior of B so that B acts in accordance with A’s wishes” (Langton & Robbins & Judge, 2011, p.230). From the definition of power, I got an idea that any person who has a great position or power could have his/her wishes.

Power could use in a positive or negative way. Sometimes power is important to improve the employee’s performance. For example, if an employee has a work to do and he/she must do it at specific time but it wasn’t done at that time, then the boss should have a process with these employees. Sometimes power could lead to negative results. The boss might use this power to get what he/she wants such as sexual abuse and that could be a threat to get what he/she wants.  For example, there are some bosses who want something from their employee and if they refuse, they will be fired. 

Listen To Understand

In organization behavior class, we took a subject that reminds me of the past. The subject was about "Conflicts and Negotiation". In fact, I had a conflict with my best friend before six years. Suddenly, she stopped talking to me without telling me the reason of her habit. I tried to talk her to apologize if I did something wrong against her. Or if she could hear something bad which might be rumor. I tried to contact her but with no results. She was ignoring me all the time. Whenever I see her, she was neglecting me, as we never were friends. That happened when I was in ninth grade. Before two weeks, I sent a friend request on Facebook to her. I wasn’t quiet sure that she will accept it. I was surprised when she sent me a message on Facebook telling me that she missed me and we should talk with each other on Whatsapp. I didn’t refuse to talk to her. I was happy to keep in touch with her again. I didn’t try to ask her what was the reason of not talking to me all the past years. I did not want to open old wounds. I think we are now old enough to open a new page of our relationship. Moreover, try to understand and think about everything before making any step.

This lecture reminds me of my relationship with my friend. I think conflicts could happen with anyone, mother, father, sister or even a friend. I found a quote saying by Vea Mariz “10% conflicts is due difference in opinion and 90% is due wrong voice tone”. I understand from this quote that there is many conflicts are caused by the voice tone. It says that the tone of voice is half of speaking. Every conflict has a solution. In my opinion, to solve a conflict between couples or group of people, they must negotiate and talk about it. I learned from my experience with my friend that if we talked about the conflict, we weren’t being strangers for too many years. 

End of a Journey is a Start To New Achievement.

Here is the end of the winter semester. It was the most semester that i felt really tired. In fact, I took five courses and I think this is might the first reason that I felt exhausted. It is such a good thing to learn more so I can gain more. But at the same time, I got too much stress because of many courses. I was trying to balance between each course but at the same time I couldn't focus in one subject. I think it was a good experience to be under pressure, because later I might feel the same way or maybe worse. Sometimes, we have to be under pressure because I believe that one day because of that pressure we will be something in the future. Most of the successful people suffer and tries many time to attain their goals. We all know that there are bad days and good days. We should learn from bad days so we can attain our achievements. We should put in our minds, end of a journey is a start to new achievement. 

There are many people saying that "Life is too short". In fact "Life is too short to wait!" There are differences between the two saying. The first shows a deep meaning of hopelessness and desperate.  When you believe in it, you will not be able to enjoy your life as much as you can. Moreover, you will always think to hurry up doing everything and not enjoying every single day. You will not be able to enjoy every second time with your friends and family . That's why i don't really believe in that quote. The other quote "Life is too short to wait" encourage you to exploit every single day without wasting. Wasting time is one of the losers' characters. I think this quote is helping you to succeed in your life. In addition, help you reach high stages. 

Love your self before loving others.

people are not alike. Personalities differ from person to another. Some people have high confident some don't. There are some people who do not love their self because they might have personality's problems. Some have overconfident which is not a good thing. When the person have overconfident، we call him/her arrogant or conceited. That personality is unacceptable from others. The best personality is that person who love him/her self moderately. Moreover, having self confident is one of the best personalities. So, love your self before loving others.  

Care Before They are Gone.

Think before you make any step in your life. Sometimes, grief could lead to such serious problems. Life doesn't stop if we lose a son or a husband . Yes, we need to cry. We need to express our feelings. All that sadness will be forgotten one day. But do you know when it becomes a serious problem? When the person harm him/herself by something sharp, because they think from that way they will get rid of their feelings. This is happening not only with adults, it's happening with children too!.

There are some parents who don't really take care of their children. Or they don't give them the time to show them the attention that they need. Some children do not talk about their problem. They also don't reveal their sadness to their parents. So they express their feelings by harming themselves. When a child do this he/she needs a solution right away.

In my opinion, to solve this problem parents should ask a psychologist about it. Making some session with a psychologist will help the child a lot. By asking the child about the reasons of doing this and help him/her to get rid of it.

Children needs attention from their parents. They need to talk. Talking will solve a lot of problems in their life. By not take caring of children, they will go to other dangerous way to express their feelings. Attention is all what they need.  

Stars Can't Shine Without Darkness.

Stars cannot be seen if there is no dark, that's why you cannot see them during the daytime. Stars needs the dark so they can shine. Life doesn't stay on one frequency. Days are not the same. There are bad and good days. Shiny days push us foreword, obstacles teach us to not give up.    

You must need both sunshine and shadow.  You cannot leave one and live with the other. They're both important in your life or you won't be able to live. Like the shadow and the light. You need the light to  feel warm, and the shadow in order to protect our body from the sun.  

Think! There are many things in your life that make you happy. One obstacle should push you foreword not pulls you behind.  You are the one who choose your happiness and your sadness. You are the one who decide to be miserable or joyful. So, BE HAPPY !