Listen To Understand

In organization behavior class, we took a subject that reminds me of the past. The subject was about "Conflicts and Negotiation". In fact, I had a conflict with my best friend before six years. Suddenly, she stopped talking to me without telling me the reason of her habit. I tried to talk her to apologize if I did something wrong against her. Or if she could hear something bad which might be rumor. I tried to contact her but with no results. She was ignoring me all the time. Whenever I see her, she was neglecting me, as we never were friends. That happened when I was in ninth grade. Before two weeks, I sent a friend request on Facebook to her. I wasn’t quiet sure that she will accept it. I was surprised when she sent me a message on Facebook telling me that she missed me and we should talk with each other on Whatsapp. I didn’t refuse to talk to her. I was happy to keep in touch with her again. I didn’t try to ask her what was the reason of not talking to me all the past years. I did not want to open old wounds. I think we are now old enough to open a new page of our relationship. Moreover, try to understand and think about everything before making any step.

This lecture reminds me of my relationship with my friend. I think conflicts could happen with anyone, mother, father, sister or even a friend. I found a quote saying by Vea Mariz “10% conflicts is due difference in opinion and 90% is due wrong voice tone”. I understand from this quote that there is many conflicts are caused by the voice tone. It says that the tone of voice is half of speaking. Every conflict has a solution. In my opinion, to solve a conflict between couples or group of people, they must negotiate and talk about it. I learned from my experience with my friend that if we talked about the conflict, we weren’t being strangers for too many years.